I've bite my blog tongue for long enough I feel, and usually I like my blog to be a happy postivie space which it is. But this blogger has sh*t to say. I don't know about you, but sometimes I can't help but laugh at the way some people behave in blog land. Yes I'm coining a term 'blog land', it's like they throw all reason out the window and this alter ego comes roaring out. I'm not claiming that I'm perfect or that I get it 'right'. Personal I think getting it right is what's right for you, blogging is great because it's your point of view. But and this is a massive red warning stop sign of a but, there are unwritten rules to how you interact with people and knowing when your just nose driving off into a place called entitlement self delusion.
In blog land I think there are the ' just be's vs the try hards ', the just be's are the bloggers who just blog for a creative outlet, a passion and to inspire others and if they make a little money or are praised it's a bonus. They are generally interested in one another and are happy that they have any readers. The try hards bitch about events people have been invited too, demand to know how others have followers and need to pour over every single detail of what another blogger is doing and why. Don't even get me started on helping within blog land, while the just be's write beautiful heartfelt posts about advice you could possible take. The try hards write 'how to's' about what your clearly doing wrong and how really you should just be in blogging for money, free shit and also to tell others why their blog will never be as successful. Plus let's not forget how they kindly correct grammar, insult style, point out issues with your body weight and make it sound like their doing you a favour. Because in reality they don't actual care, it's just a way to seem like they do plus get more hits to their site by spamming their link every where.
It get's even better when dealing with PR's see the just be's are happy, and actual excited when offered things from brands. If they don't feel it's them they kindly decline so that it can go to a blogger who will truly enjoy it. While the try hards are writing up their mental list of things that PR's 'NEED' to give me. Rather than talking to a PR as a person, the try hard believes that the soul reason PR's exist is to fill their wardrobes, beauty cupboards and well let's face it. Their whole home to the brim, with all that 'free shit' I mentioned earlier.
When it comes to getting to know one another, a just be is happy to ask questions and to answer questions within reason. The try hard is to busy thinking of how they brand their blog, to even give a crap that your in the room. Unless however they want to use you, for as their power point plan of how many hits your blog gets. Also lets not forget to probe other bloggers about what are those people who give me the free shit, oh yeah your PR contacts. The just be's may ask you a few questions about your blog, but don't demand or push others for information. there happy to share and give advice and swap ideas with one another. There's respect that somethings you don't ask, as it can be seen as rude. When giving criticism it's constructive and they would never want to hurt someones feelings.
Shit fashion bloggers say, well we all say crap every now and again. The difference is when you have been drinking your own ego, and think that somehow you own blog land and that everyone in it should all hail to you. It's okay not to be the same, it's okay not to like everyone in blog land. It's not okay to be a nasty person who leaves hateful undertones, within a supposedly nice comment. It's not okay to send a PR a mass of demands, and question your not invited. Understand that you can't attend everything, sometimes it's nice when others have a chance to attend an event.
PR's don't walk around with lists stapled to their foreheads of everyone, they find their contacts through social media, recommendations and so on. Please do me and blog land a favour, if your honestly just blogging for things than seat down and reflect. There's a thing called,wait for it .....Buying it yourself ....I know right, groundbreaking news. Yes it's nice to be gifted things, but that's not a reason enough for me to personal spend hours upon hours ..shooting, editing writing and talking with people. I blog because I'm bored, I'm a full time mum of two little boys. This is my space to create and talk with people, it's a way of keeping sanity and getting away from ' well my child can juggle fire' talk. I love being a mum, but I'm more than just someones mum. So please for people like me and other bloggers just give it up, go use all that entailment self delusion and go right your magazine about how wonderful you are or something.
P.S To my lovely just be's, you rock and you make blog land magic. I love this video that was written and directed by Amy Watson for New Look. It stars three bloggers, two of who I know (sorry Monica I'm certain your a lovely gal too) mucho love for Heather from Effie's Makeup box and Jen from J Noir . I think the just be's will laugh at the hinted truths, while I'm sure the try hards will be asking 'why aren't I in this video! Glitter on toast anyone?